White Gown Fever!

‘When will you marry, this year?  next year? sometime forever’?

I am at the age where it is the correct order of the day to get married. Rumour has it that if you are unmarried at this age and you are not already planning your big day, there’s something terribly wrong with you! At least so they say. I hereby urge all folks – stop the flow of this notion. It is a wrong one and it hurts many single women. Please, instead of tearing us down, you too can help put a stop to the pressure!

We are young, beautiful, intelligent, virtuous, loving, generous, compassionate and most of all, happy… at least I am. As for me, I will get married one day and if I don’t, well… I don’t! My status shouldn’t define me.

Society, please do not make us settle for less. I know that if I do, I will be unhappy and if I am unhappy, I will have to endure my marriage instead of enjoying it. How does one endure life for the rest of one’s life? While I am unmarried, I have a great life, I have health, I have a great job, I am at peace, I am happy and I am safe. Does that count?

Due to pressure, the single woman may get desperate and the result – she dresses up and carries herself strictly the way men like it. Men start to approach her and she says what she thinks they want to hear. If she is fortunate, they like her, or at least one does. Then one thing leads to another and they set a date. She gets married and in no time there is trouble. There is trouble because she can’t keep up appearances for that long! If she is lucky, he might just be verbally and emotionally abusive towards her instead of getting physical. Better still, he might give her daily doses of the very silent treatment and not care for her the way he ought to. I ask, is it all worth it?

Divorce is on the increase. Many are running out of the marriages they ran into. I don’t blame them. I blame society. Our families. Our mothers. Please S.T.O.P. the pressure. We would get married one day… God willing. In the meantime, let us live!

Writer – Ejire

Photocredit – Blend

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