Remove The Wool From Your Eyes!

By Anita Umebese

No one’s going to do it for you. Most people would prefer it stayed there. Unless you come to the realisation that you can’t see past your nose, the wool is going to be the new Armani shades and you’re going to keep rocking ‘em like a fashion conscious bat!

So, you think she’s your friend, you do the calling, the pinging, the ‘watching of her back’ and worrying about stuff that’s important to her, but when you need her, you realize she’s done a rent-a-ghost number on your arse. Optimistic is your middle name, celebrating your friendship with cuddly pictures and furry messages, wake up and smell the dog poo, you are as alone as Robinson Crusoe was! Why are you holding on so tight? Yes, you were friends as kids, but why have you decided to be the old grandma who refuses to change with the times? Forced loyalty to an old friend who doesn’t have your back while you put the ones who do in second place every time. Think about it, the people who are ready to bail you out when you are in need and cover for you, those who remember to check up on you every once in a while, they are your friends. Damn the title, BFFs are only forever if the friendship is forever!

You and your man have been dating for 8 years. So? Are you happy? No! Is he going to put a ring on it anytime this century? You think not! Does he try to make you happy? No! Is he faithful? No! Then, why on earth are you still there? Did he tie you to a chair and gag you with a dirty sock? Did he make a pact with your soul for some change he’d use to take another girl out? For crying out loud, life is short. You aren’t even married yet and it doesn’t look like that’s going to happen soon. So, why don’t you screw marriage, screw what others think and screw everything else screw-able and follow your dreams, even if all you have in the dream safe is a longing for solitude and peace of mind. Trust me, you could work your way up from there. A day at a time and you’ll be doing not just you, but the man you claim would be lost without you, a whole lot of good.

So, your job sucks? You are under-paid and over-worked. You borrow like an alcoholic and can’t wait for the next pay check. You’ve never even heard of the word ‘savings’ because you don’t even have enough and to top it all, your boss treats you like s**t. Did you go to school to end up like this? You spend more hours at your job than anywhere else. Is this what you call making a living? This profit-less hard work? I know bus drivers who make more money than you. So they don’t wear a suit every day – big dea?! Then one day a new bill is added to your never-ending list of bills and then you can’t take it anymore so you decide to buy some strong rope and kill yourself! WRONG!

You think that’s bad? Life throws all sorts of curve balls at us and they hit really hard and many times below the belt but do we give up? Do we suck on the lemons a little at a time hoping we’ll eventually get accustomed to the acrid taste? No! That’s not living, that’s existing. The worst thing you can do is to compare yourself to someone worse than you. That only works when you are on your knees struggling hard to be thankful as you say a prayer to the Almighty. When you get off your knees, if you don’t know the difference between the hope that comes with being thankful that you’re not as bad as somebody else AND the mediocrity that creeps up on you when you are HAPPY you are not as bad as somebody else then you’ll be sooooo screwed!

You’re clearly not succeeding at what you’re doing? Has it occurred to you that maybe you aren’t doing it wrong, you are just in the wrong place? Failure is relative. A lot of great men and women were failures till they shook off the mantle of propriety. Who gives a damn about status quo? Who gives a rat’s arse about what the world thinks? If you do, you are going to die a slow, very painful death caused by broken dreams and an unfulfilled life. All the people emulated today dared to be different.

You don’t have to be the best there is, you just have to be different from what there is. Carve your niche and you’ll be surprised what lengths you’d go. And if where you are makes you so mad, if you hate the situation you find yourself in, don’t despair, don’t kiss arse, just flee. You’ll hurt more people if you stay. You can’t give what you don’t have. Having a happy and fulfilled life is the only way you can impact positively those around you!

Have a lovely day peeps. xoxoxo
Writer: Anita Umebese or Miz Chutzpah as she is fondly called is a medical doctor who loves to think outside the box. She’s an award-winning blogger and is currently working on her first novel. You can visit her blog at www.chocolatechutzpah.wordpress.com or follow her on twitter (@neetahblaq).

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