Your children need your presence more than your presents. ~ Jesse Jackson
The presence of those we love is the best gift ever and we must value every moment we spend with them. This is as true for children as it is for adults.
A recent post on the Adorable Mum forum on Facebook asked if it was possible to symbolize the love we have for our children with toys and gadgets and I responded stating that – “it would be absolutely impossible to symbolize our love for our children with toys and gadgets.”
Toys play essential roles in the lives of children but it should not be used to quantify the love we have for our children. I believe that the simplest things, which are free and priceless, would do a far better job to prove our love for our adorable ones than even the most expensive toys. In any relationship, Presence should always supersede Presents.
Even when we have to be away for long hours, the reassuring words that we say to them when we are with them, the hugs we give them every now and then, the goodnight kisses, the good morning smiles, the respect we show them, the way we treat them, how we talk to them, the 10 minutes we spend playing games together, the 5 minutes we spend reading a book or the 30 minutes we spend watching their favourite television show with them would go a long way. The best things in life are free and the most beautiful and important presents we can give to our children is OUR PRESENCE.
And Presence, like presents can be a great reward too for children. Children, like adults are motivated to do things if they know they’ll be rewarded for it.
Dr James Dobson explains it this way. “As adults, we go to work each day and receive a pay cheque every other Friday. Getting out of bed each morning and meeting the requirements of a job are thereby rewarded. Medals are given to brave soldiers, plaques are awarded to successful business people, and watches are presented to retiring employees. Rewards make responsible effort worthwhile”
Children need to learn how to behave appropriately, and a positive reward system can be a great tool for parenting; and one good thing about rewards is that, they don’t always have to be toys, gadgets etc. The best rewards are time spent with family and friends. So an extra play time with mummy or extra television time with dad or a big-beary hug or more outside play time with their friends could all make great rewards for good behaviour.
Writer: Gee Bee is the Founder and President of Adorable Mum, an online support forum which celebrates motherhood and provides a platform for mothers to help one another be the best that they can be. Adorable Mum is an online community with over 10,000 members worldwide.
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