OUTSPOKEN: Ayotola Wonders How Helpmates Became Servants.
One thing I know most men like to do is be in charge, they obviously feel good when they run the show, but I have had the opportunity to speak with quite a number of men and women too, and I honestly believe people are in knots over the difference between submission and servitude.
Just the other day, I listened to some people debate about how a woman should be submissive to her husband, and one of the men went on and on about how his wife (a so-called virtuous woman) is meant to have the his breakfast ready before he gets out of the shower, drop the kids off at school, go to work, take care of the kids and have his dinner ready before he asks. All of them went on and on about it until I could not take it anymore. Then I asked them, “don’t you think that has gone from submission to servitude?” and of course, a lot of them condemned me saying that I am one of those in the women’s liberation school of thought and that when you have such mentality, your marriage would not last.
I beg to differ, despite being a Christian and knowing the popularly quoted Proverbs 31 very well, I strongly believe that as virtuous women, we still have a right to being happy and getting some help from our beloved husbands. Since when did the word ‘helpmates’ change its meaning to servants? I know some people who do not agree with me will be quick to refer to the fact that our grandmothers and maybe some of our mothers did the chores without problems, but the point is that, the world has changed, we women now have day jobs just like our husbands and we still have to carry out the unending tasks of the home, is it too much if our husbands lend a helping hand every now and then? Did they not promise to love and cherish us till death does us part? If truly they do love us like they love themselves, would they not be willing to relieve us of the many chores that we have to carry out day in day out?
Writer: Ayotola is an inspirational blogger (www.alldatmatas.blogspot.com) who always has the urge to contribute positively to the lives of those she meets in life’s journey. She obtained her degree in Masters of Management from the University Of Glasgow, Scotland, UK. Ayotola currently works as a business analyst and also as a consultant for start-up businesses.