How To Get Over Depressing Mood Swings?
Sometimes you just feel down and can’t seem to lay your fingers on the reasons why. Some other times you wake up sad, lacking motivation to start your day. Sometimes your mood switches like a light bulb from enthusiastic to gloomy. It happens to all of us, male or female, young or old, black or white and it is very normal. No one can be 100% happy every time.
Moodiness is one of the numerous emotional states humans must feel, but it becomes a problem when we let it get the better part of us which could lead to depression. All emotions can be controlled and managed, so is depression. Depression doesn’t just start in a day, it is caused by an accumulation of unchecked moodiness. You don’t always have to take out your aggression on an innocent person or on your belongings, overindulge, hurt yourself or worst, take your life. You can and should actually nip those depressing feelings in the bud because bottling such feelings without addressing them is the major cause of depression, and no one is immune to it.
The fantastic news is there are simple steps to help you get over those depressing moody feelings. So follow me;
1. Identify the feeling: When you feel depressed or moody, be sure to be able to identify it and be able to say ‘I am moody’. If someone else notices your change in mood and is open enough to tell you, you should be able to accept it without getting angry. It is that mood when nothing seems to interest you. The mood when you get so easily irritated and flare up at the slightest irritation. The honest truth is when you do not know what your problem is, you won’t be able to find a solution to it. So first of all, understand your emotional state and be able to identify the feelings when they come.
2. Analyse your mood: Make a mental record of all likely events that might caused your present state of mind. Scrutinize events that took place between your last excited mood and your moody state in chronological order. The changes that occurred, the people you interacted with, your thoughts, something you did, in short, anything that might have provoked the mood switch. You could do this with a trusted friend or by yourself, whichever works for you. Now you know the main reasons why you are moody.
3. Address them one at a time: Take each as a problem and try to solve each one. Problems could be: not knowing what lies ahead of you when venturing into something new; or pains from past events or achieved goals. You might not have an absolute answer to all, but you’ll have a sense of direction. After doing this, you’ll definitely feel relieved. The bad mood may not totally disappear but it will definitely subside.
4. Confide in an understanding friend: A problem shared is half-solved which is very true. Confide in someone you trust. By sharing how you feel and your problems to a trusted friend, you’ll realise that your problems are not as bad as they seem or are not even problems in the first place. You might also get to know others who have passed through something similar and scaled through.
5. Do something you love: This helps you get distracted so you don’t keep thinking and getting moodier because addressing each ‘problem’ doesn’t automatically erase the feelings they have provoked to vanish. You have to make conscious efforts to stop your mind from dwelling on those depressing thoughts by doing something you love, something that you’ll get engrossed in. This step is important because it is so sad that after people have found solutions to their problems, they still allow their minds to keep feeding of those depressing thoughts, thus sinking deeper into the pool of moodiness instead of being happier. So do something you really love that captures or commands your utmost attention.
6. Motivate yourself: You have a dream, a clear picture of what you want to become. If you have written out, go to it, read it, meditate on it and let it inspire you. If you have not, start asap.
7. Don’t expect a magical change: Don’t think that when you sleep and wake up, you will automatically feel better. You have to consciously work on yourself because your mind loves to wander and it always will. It is a gradual and continuous process, but it definitely works. You are in charge and in control of your thought processes, so anytime your mind begins to dwell on depressing thoughts or provoke moody feelings, you know what to do. Try it anytime you are down till it becomes part of you.
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